The Bible’s Simple Plan for Sex
by Richard Mansel,
Scripture speaks often and favorably about sex. God loves humanity and provides sexual fulfillment as a rewarding way to bring marriages closer together and to produce offspring.
In the proper context, it is a powerful and beautiful thing. We will briefly consider the proper role of sex in our lives.
God’s plan is simple and wholesome. However, the world ridicules it as being old-fashioned, outdated and repressive. These false charges are proof of how sexually depraved the world has become.
Man’s plan says that anything is possible, no matter how sick or abusive. Millions suffer and die from diseases and depression, as a result. We must return to God’s original plan if we will truly find the power of the gift he has given to his children.
First, children grow up in a safe environment. Parents protect their children from impure situations and relationships and allow them to grow up healthy and happy.
They do not introduce them to obscenities at an early age by allowing them unrestrained access to whatever they choose to do, listen to and watch. They place boundaries around them to keep them safe (Proverbs 22:6).
Parents teach their children about healthy sexuality, rather than allowing the world to do so. Parents allow them to understand God’s plan and why they should avoid the sexual sins of humanity.
Children, as they grow, are taught how to handle challenging dating situations so they can remain pure. We encourage them to dress modestly and keep their lives free of perversion (1 Timothy 2:9; 2 Samuel 11:2-5; Matthew 5:28).
Second, sex is to occur only within the confines of marriage.
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4, NKJV).
God allows no exceptions (Matthew 19:9).
A couple gets married as true virgins. They are free from disease and guilt and have no concerns that they are being judged against all of their spouses’ previous lovers. Moreover, their minds are free of the aberrant sexuality portrayed in pornography.
“In God’s plan, marriage is an absolute moral boundary that permits no exception under any circumstances-regardless of feelings, regardless of finances, regardless of mutual consent, regardless of fertility, and regardless of popular opinion or culture.”/1
Our marriages are to be completely free of the world’s sexual perversions. We must shun pornography and lust and show complete respect to our spouses, no matter how difficult it will be to resist the temptations around us (Proverbs 7).
Third, sex is to be a rewarding part of marriage. The spurious charges made against God’s plan for sex are ridiculous since the Bible celebrates marital love and sex (Song of Solomon).
God desires that husbands and wives will find their sex lives to be a highly rewarding aspect of their bond (Genesis 2:24-25). We respect our spouse’s wishes and desires and love them wholly and completely, as we do our own flesh (Ephesians 5:22-28).
As an expression of our love, we protect our spouse against the temptations of the world.
“Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does” (1 Corinthians 7:3-4).
When sex is confined solely to marriage, couples find greater satisfaction and pleasure. /2 Remember that God’s plan requires humility and selflessness,which dooms most people. They want others to serve their sexual proclivities no matter what the consequences.
However, if we will trust God’s plan for marriage, we will find extraordinary rewards!
1/ Daniel R. Heimbach, True Sexual Morality (Wheaton: Crossway Books, 2004, 178.
2/ Linda J. Waite, Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage (Broadway Books: New York, 2000).