by Richard Mansel
Singer, songwriter Fiona Apple writes piercing words about relationships. While I do not endorse all she writes or does, her song, “Paper Bag,” carries a profound lesson.
In her song, she discusses a man who holds a powerful attraction for her. At the outset, she is exhilarated because she thinks the dove of hope is about to alight upon her. Then, she realizes it was only a paper bag and the jarring image awakens her from her stupor.
She carries the image into her analysis of the doomed relationship. Her lover was a man who had failed to grow up and was not ready for an adult relationship. She knew she had to leave before she was in too deep.
“Hunger hurts, but starving works, when it costs too much to love.”
These words are stunning when we carefully meditate upon their implications.